You're Engaged: Five Things to do First
Catch your breath and start planning your wedding
By Debby Mayne
After the wedding proposal has been accepted, and the stars have cleared from your eyes, it's time to start planning for the wedding. It doesn't matter if you want a small, intimate affair or an elaborate, extravagant affair. Some of the plans cross all levels of wedding styles, budgets and sizes.
Tell the world
The first people you need to call or visit are your immediate families. After you let your parents and siblings know your status, contact other relatives and close friends. Make lists so you don't forget anyone. You don't want to hurt the feelings of your favorite great-aunt or leave out the people you love because you forgot.
Choose the date
Ideally, the bride and groom should select several wedding date options to present to family and close friends. If a parent, sibling or best friend has a conflict, this makes it easier for everyone than the couple having to leave out an important person.
Choose bridesmaids and groomsmen
Some people know long before they ever get engaged who they want to be their maid of honor or best man. However, others have to choose from friends or siblings. Because the bridal party is the hub of most pre-wedding activity, you'll need to ask people as far in advance as possible. If you have more friends than you can have for bridesmaids, ask some of them to attend the guest book or help with programs. Any position in the wedding is a place of honor.
Set a budget and select venues
Discuss the amount of money you and your parents are willing to spend on your wedding. After you set your budget, spend some time looking for where you want to have the ceremony and reception. The sooner you secure the locations with a deposit, the more likely you are to get the places you want.
Make your checklist
Use our handy wedding timeline tool to create a checklist for yourself. You should start with a monthly task list and then finish with the weeks and days right before the wedding. Print out copies for the groom, parents of the couple, maid of honor, best man and anyone else who is helping. As each task is completed, you'll feel a strong sense of accomplishment when you cross it off the list.
About the Author
Debby Mayne is a writer of numerous articles and a contributor to DexKnows.
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