How to Write a Wedding Toast
What should you say -- and not say -- to the wedding guests
By Jonathan Croswell
Whether you have been asked to give a toast or are choosing to give one of your own volition, a lot is riding on the words you deliver. The ideal toast is quick, funny, heartwarming and genuine. There's a safe and sure route to take when you are giving a wedding toast that will make guests and the married couple happy and guide you through potentially hazardous waters. Make it memorable, but for all the right reasons.
- What You Need to Know
- Be sure your toast opens with your connection to the couple and what kind of history you have with them.
- Tailor your speech to how well you know the audience and the formality of the event.
- Know the size of the room and the size of the audience, so that you can adjust your volume to a comfortable level.
- Make a toast meaningful by imparting any advice you feel is worth passing along to the bride and groom.
Open your toast with either a quick story about the bride and groom or a brief introduction of yourself and your relationship to the couple.
Brainstorm a funny story or anecdote from your past with the bride or groom. This story should tie into the purpose of your speech, which is to praise the couple for being a good match and bestow your best wishes upon them.
Offer advice to the bride, groom or both, depending on your experiences with them and your closeness to them. If you're married, draw from those experiences, or forewarn one member of the married couple of some potentially aggravating habits the other possesses -- in a fun, lighthearted manner.
Offer thanks where it is appropriate. In addition to acknowledging the bride and groom for their friendship and inspiration, you should thank their families for hosting the wedding festivities.
Don't forget that wedding toasts aren't just speeches, they are "toasts." Before taking your seat, invite the other guests to raise their glass with you in honoring the newlyweds.
About the Author
Jonathan Croswell is a freelance writer who has worked on regional wedding publications.
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