How to Throw a Bachelor Party

Plan a dream bachelor party for the groom-to-be

By Jonathan Croswell

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One of the biggest responsibilities of a best man is to plan a bachelor party for the groom. This is an important event for the groom and his friends as they celebrate a major life change. It also gives the groom a break from stress before the big day arrives and the responsibilities of married life begin.

  • What You Need to Know
  • Talk to the groom before you plan the party. You want to make sure that the locale and festivities are exactly as he wants them.
  • Create a spreadsheet to coordinate the groomsmen's calendars; this will help you select the best date for everyone to get together.
  • Certain shared expenses need to be tracked and divided between all of the bachelor party attendees. Create a separate spreadsheet where each groomsman can submit their expenses. Divide costs after the bachelor party and collect what each man owes.

Step 1:

Talk to the groom about his ideal bachelor party. See if he prefers a wild weekend in Vegas or a relaxing day at the beach. As the best man, you and the groom should both be sensitive to the groomsmen's budgets and schedules. Determine a rough itinerary for what to do at the bachelor party.

Step 2:

Ask the groom to help you make the guest list so you know how many to plan for. This is especially important if you are going to an event such as a sports game, for which limited seating or tickets are involved.

Step 3:

Send invitations, giving the invitees a general idea of what to expect. Let them know if there are events or a dress code they need to prepare for. It's perfectly appropriate to send an e-mail or electronic invite; plus, it makes managing RSVP responses easier. Once you have a solid idea of how many are attending, discuss how finances will be split and make sure that everyone is comfortable with the itinerary. When possible, make adjustments to include as many members of the group as you can.

Step 4:

Book hotel rooms, make dinner reservations, and purchase any entertainment tickets for the event. Encourage out-of-towners to make travel arrangements to attend the bachelor party.

Step 5:

Make sure the entire night is planned. The last thing your groom will want is a bachelor party that starts to wind down around 10 o'clock. Make sure the guests will be kept busy throughout the night. Start the evening off slowly. You don't want guys pounding beers at 6:30 and passing out by 9. Arrange for a late group dinner and check on transportation costs for taxis or limos.

  • Tips & Warnings
  • Avoid scheduling the bachelor party on the eve of the wedding. Don't add any extra stress for you or for the groom!
  • Be prepared to provide transportation for all guests so that no one drives after drinking.
  • Check with the restaurants, bars, and clubs you plan on visiting, and ask them if they have group discounts for bachelor parties.

About the Author

Jonathan Croswell is a freelance writer who has worked on regional wedding publications.

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