How to Tell your Friends and Family You've Eloped
Here's how to tell your friends and family that you just got married, and, um, didn't invite them
By MiShaun Taylor
Have you decided you don't want to spend money on a lavish wedding? Do you want to avoid the stress of planning a wedding? Are you scared Uncle Earl might drink too much and embarrass you at the reception? Whatever your reason for eloping, how you spend your big day is your choice. However, after the excitement of the ceremony, it's time to share the good news with all the people who might have expected an invitation to your wedding.
- What You Need to Know
- Let everyone know as soon as possible. Your friends and family may be offended that they weren't informed beforehand, so don't risk extra disappointment by letting them find out from somebody else. Wait until you get home to tell anybody, so the word doesn't leak out. If possible, talk to them in person instead of on the phone.
Explain your reasons for eloping, but be prepared that you and your parents may not see eye to eye on this. Try to break it down in a manner they will understand so they don't feel personally rejected. For example, if you explain that you were trying to save money by eloping rather than paying for an elaborate ceremony, they may not feel as hurt.
Send out wedding announcements to everyone who would have been on the guest list. You can get personalized announcements from small print stores or card shops. It's also fast, easy and inexpensive to create and order announcements online. Including a photo from the wedding with the announcement is a nice touch for those who wished they could have been there with you.
Plan a celebration that involves your friends and family. Some couples opt to celebrate with everyone at a reception once they return. If you don't want to invest as much money, host a small dinner, and invite your closest friends and family. If your parents are upset that they missed your wedding, consider a mock ceremony in their backyard. Allow your mother to assist you with planning -- so if she wants to order and pay for flowers, let her -- and don't stress over the details. You've already had your big day, so this event is to let your loved ones participate in an important milestone of your life in their own way.
About the Author
With more than 15 years of writing experience, MiShaun Taylor specializes in wedding-related articles.
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