How to Be a Good Host at a Wedding

Take some pressure off of the bride and groom by welcoming guests to their wedding

By Debby Mayne

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Hosting a wedding is an honor and carries the responsibility of insuring that everything runs smoothly at the wedding and reception. The larger the wedding, the more hosts the bridal couple will need. Family, good friends or professional hosts can fill this position. After the wedding ceremony, the hosts often take over.

  • What You Need to Know
  • As soon as the host accepts the job, he or she may attend announcement parties, showers and other events related to the wedding, taking notes, assisting the wedding couple and keeping track of gifts and favors.
  • The majority of a wedding host's responsibilities take place at the ceremony and reception. You can relieve the bride and groom of the stress of answering questions and giving directions.

Step 1:

Leading up to the wedding, the host may be assigned the task of double-checking with vendors and venues for times, payment or any issues that need to be addressed.

Step 2:

Due to the wedding host's visibility, appearance is important. The host should wear a dress or suit that is appropriate for the style of the wedding. Most wedding hosts will wear a corsage.

Step 3:

Before the wedding, the host will greet guests and answer questions as they walk into the church or wedding venue. After the wedding, the host should be the first person to arrive at the reception to greet guests again, pointing the way to the gift table and guest book.

Step 4:

The host should discretely deal with minor problems. If there are any last-minute changes or issues that need to be addressed, the host will handle them. For receptions where alcohol is served, the host should be aware of anyone who has had too much to drink and alert the predetermined people of authority to escort them out and insure a safe ride home or to their hotel.

  • Tips & Warnings
  • Each bridal couple has different needs from a host, so it's a good idea to talk to the bride and groom about your responsibilities and expectations.
  • The host should never be an adversary, so if there is an altercation during the wedding, someone with authority (venue manager, police or bouncer) should take over.
  • If the wedding host is a close friend or family member, they may or may not be considered part of the bridal party for pictures and events.

About the Author

Debby Mayne is a writer of numerous articles and a contributor to DexKnows.

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