Do You Give Both Shower & Wedding Gifts?

This primer will help you navigate the etiquette behind wedding presents

By Jen Whitten

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When invited to both a bridal shower and wedding, guests often wonder if they should give one gift or two. They want to share in the new couple's joy, but also want to be aware of etiquette and expense.


Some legends say that the tradition of the wedding shower began in Holland when a bride's family refused to pay a dowry. Friends gave the couple gifts to replace the dowry.


It is customary to send a wedding gift even if you are unable to attend the wedding. If you attend both the wedding and bridal shower, it is proper etiquette to give two gifts.


Modern-day wedding and shower gifts are given to ensure a young couple has everything they need to start their new life together.Wedding presents are for the couple and typically come from the wedding registry.


Bridal shower gifts may also be from the registry, but should be geared toward the bride as opposed to the couple.

Time frame

Guests have up to one year after the wedding to send wedding gifts to the couple, while you give bridal shower gifts during the shower.

About the Author

Jen Whitten is a freelance writer and worked in the event and wedding planning fields.

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